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The free ride

 One of the bartenders at a place around the corner quit this Saturday. He told me he’s going to work as a teacher. I wished him good luck.

He’s not that old, maybe 25. It got me thinking about what I was doing at that age…

I was a bricklayer. It feels like ages ago - and it kinda was. After that, I’ve had many different jobs.

Looking back at our lives, it’s pretty amazing how much we’ve experienced and accomplished. Even if we’ve stayed in the same place doing the same job, we’ve seen, done, and learned so much.

It’s easy to miss. Easy to think:

“Is this it? I’ve made no progress.”

And maybe that’s true — if we only look at a short timeframe. But when we zoom out, when we take in the whole picture, it’s almost hard to believe how much we’ve been through.

There have been ups and downs, good days and bad days, laughter and sorrow.

Quite a ride, and the journey isn’t over yet.

And the best part? We all got the ticket for free.

Priceless!

Robert Birming

08 Sep 2025 at 15:00
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Love this post Irrational Dedication, via Duncan Davidson:

Every single thing we see, someone had to will it into existence against the entropy of the universe and the indifference of everyone else. That’s what the entire built world is.

Manton Reece

08 Sep 2025 at 14:58

[Note] Retroactive Name Changes [RSS Exclusive!]

 

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By a convenience of dates, I can today count in exact months how long I’ve spent in each of three phases of my life:

  1. A child, with my birth name: 216 months
  2. An adult, still with my birth name: 98 month
  3. An adult, now with my assumed name: 222 months

(I drew a pretty pie chart but a crash ate it.)

Or in other numbers: I’ve now spent ~70% of my adult life, or ~41% of my entire life, living by a name I chose for myself.

I used a deed poll to change my name. And nowadays – with several iterations of my personal documentation issued over the 18½ years I’ve been using my name – it doesn’t even come up any more, except when somebody observes “hey, that’s an unusual name you’ve got there!” I haven’t even looked at my deed poll in over a decade, for example. My name today is more well-established as the one I was given at birth was by the time I reached adulthood.


And so it occurred to me this weekend, while I was reimplementing FreeDeedPoll.org.uk: because I was born in Scotland, there’s no reason I can’t also get my name changed on the one remaining bit of documentation that still has my birth name: my birth certificate! Scottish law allows me to have this retroactively changed for a modest fee, which would result in a re-issued birth certificate that showed “Dan Q” (with my birth name included as an “also known as”).

I’m flip-flopping on whether I should. Want to see my pros/cons lists?

Pros:

  • It’s the one last (changeable) thing that could reflect my actual name
  • It feels a little weird nowadays when I bump into my old name (e.g. on my first degree certificate, which I had to dig out earlier this year for a job application)
  • It’d be nice to understand the Scottish process, as (via FreeDeedPoll.org.uk) I end up helping lots of people to change their name

Cons:

  • I don’t need it; I’ve got all the documentation I could ever need and much, much more in my name; it’ll probably make no material difference to my life
  • It seems symbolically like a rejection of the past, or of my family, or of an attempt to rewrite history, all of which feel icky
  • It’s not free!

I don’t know which way I’ll eventually fall on this. Considering how… inconsequential it’d be, either way, to my day-to-day life… it’s surprising how much of an itch it is, at the back of my brain!

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Notes – Dan Q

08 Sep 2025 at 14:52

Acceptance

  Six months ago, I offered to produce, mix, and master the debut album for a friend. One out of several good reasons to do so was selfish: use their project to complete a process of re-igniting my music production workflow, and rekindle with all the intrinsic mechanisms that are needed for a quality delivery. A process that I had successfully started with Zavajer at the end of last year.

The idea was to start offering sound production services again, as a side activity. I didn't think that through. Taking six months for a 6-song album uncovered an obvious problem, especially if compared to how, back in the day, it used to take less than three weeks, including all the back-and-forth with the author, and proper quality testing.

I can go on however I want to find reasons as to why it took me so long, but it boils down to a simple linear truth: I don't want to do it. Having a day job means that I can only use a few hours here and there, or the weekend, or my holidays, to work on music production. Reality showed me that it's my free time, time to do personal stuff, enjoy relationships, go visit places, do house chores, et cetera.

Having said that, I'm proud of the album, no matter how my obsessed mind will always consider my work as sub-par. Obsessed by a past standard that's currently unattainable to me, that I used to achieve because I poured ten hours a day into the craft, every day, for years. Yet, the simple fact of being proud of this new production is a giant step for me. It means starting to accept that perfection is not of this world, and that sometimes good enough is the best for everyone.

A fulfilling explanation of how things are with me and music production came out of a nice discussion with another friend and musician, with whom I've been collaborating for almost ten years. We share the same age and a similar living situation, so we found each other agreeing with wanting to savour our free time in peace, without obsessing over having to perform something else at any cost.

We also shared the logical result of the above: turn our focus on our music instead. Having no deadline, whatever and whenever it comes to us, work on new music to keep the flame going. Do we have something to say, something to play? Let's record that, and produce the outcome at our pace.

Acceptance is sometimes hard, but when it comes it's satisfying.


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08 Sep 2025 at 11:55

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 Suddenly, there was the noise of somebody walking on our driveway. The doggo woke up and stood, alert, ready to defend the house from intruders. Unfortunately in her haste she forgot to put her tongue away.

Happy Eighth of Bleptember.

A champagne-coloured French Bulldog stands in a room, next to a a black PC case. She's staring into the middle-distance, and her tongue is at full blep.

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Notes – Dan Q

08 Sep 2025 at 09:13

take the three-question wason test, then come back

 

There are four cards, a simple rule, and all you’ve got to do is to work out which cards you need to turn over to see if the rule has been broken. That’s got to be easy, right? Well maybe, but the Wason Selection Task, as it is called, is one of the most oft repeated tests of logical reasoning in the world of experimental psychology.

Three questions.

Only click on this and read after you've taken the test! I swear it's fast.

According to Leda Cosmides and John Tooby, the results of the Wason Selection Task demonstrate that the human mind has not evolved reasoning procedures that are specialised for detecting logical violations of conditional rules. Moreover, they claim that this is the case even when these rules deal with familiar content drawn from everyday life.

However, they argue that the human mind has evolved to detect violations of conditional rules, when these violations involve cheating on a social exchange. This is a situation where a person is entitled to some kind of reward only if they have fulfilled a particular requirement (for example, you can enter a particular nightclub only if you’re over the age of 21). Cheating involves taking the benefit, without fulfilling the condition for the benefit. Cosmides and Tooby have found that when the Wason Selection Task is constructed to reflect a cheating scenario, subjects perform considerably better than they do with the standard test.

Okay, so, obviously invoking evolution is a little silly here. Who’s to say this is a matter of hardwiring rather than what people have practiced?

Still, there’s something very interesting.

In biology, anthropomorphism bad.

In science, the use of anthropomorphic language that suggests animals have intentions and emotions has traditionally been deprecated as indicating a lack of objectivity. Biologists have been warned to avoid assumptions that animals share any of the same mental, social, and emotional capacities of humans, and to rely instead on strictly observable evidence.

You might reason about it: we don’t want to project our own social dynamics onto situations where they’re not fundamentally present, because we’ll project too much and miss what’s going on. Seems fair enough.

But in this case, taking the social out of the same reasoning task makes many unable to pick their way through it.

This suggests to me that various anthropomorphized lenses can help us with cold hard logical problems, especially if we can pick them up and put them down.

The version of this that I’ve found people able to use at work is “adversarial” thinking. Every computer science education handwaves a bit that you ought to be able to do this kind of reasoning, sometimes for worst-case analysis or more commonly for security. You can walk people through this a bit and get to interesting insights.

(Fake example that may make this seem slightly more concrete to software engineers if absolute nonsense to everyone else: Yes, I know that this service is only invoked by three trusted internal callers, and yes, they’re all supposed to be reasonable – but think with me. If you wanted to, could you create load with some attributes that would ruin the async workflow distribution’s performance characteristics? (Some method is discussed.) (Ahh – and could we end up with some amount of that by accident if the upstream caller had a failure in such-and-such way and were resubmitting XYZ?))

But: I think adversarial reasoning and thinking about cheating probably isn’t the only way that social reasoning can help when you’re manipulating endless cold logical abstractions.

My senior year in college, a friend and I were thoroughly and delightedly obnoxious about calling components / interfaces / entities “boi”. “The session state boi.” “The parser boi needs it.” “Ahh but this update will need to touch the factory bois as well.” I can’t say that that must have been fun for others, but… Thinking about the different pieces of code like mammoths in a David Macaulay drawing handing off various tasks to each other makes it easier for me to remember what they all do and how they interact.

Is that embarrassing? Is it something to suppress like a field biologist’s anthropomorphization of a troop of meerkats?

I think it shouldn’t be. I’ve no idea today how to leverage it to be more effective, but there’s a powerful amount of brain that you get to work with for social reasoning, and finding ways of getting it to kick on seems valuable.

maya.land

08 Sep 2025 at 08:00

Scripting News: Monday, September 8, 2025

 

Monday, September 8, 2025

Podcast: Why blogging lost to Twitter and other folk songs. #

I've been calling the next release Radio WordLand. If you know the history you'll understand why. I'll start posting screen shots soon. #

Screen shot of a post by Evan Prodromou on Masto yesterday. "You publish where you want to publish, Dave. We'll find a way to connect to you. That's the whole point." Indeed that is the whole point. I say it like this. "Interop is all that matters." If our products interop that's pure love. The rest of it is baloney. Maybe I'm not a nice guy. Not my job. We've being fucked over by "social media" for 19 years now, and the new ones who say they're open, and on the web, and decentralized, are not. The only way out of this mess is what Evan said. BTW, I sent Evan a pointer to the subscription list which is my outflow. I use OPML for the list and RSS for the feeds. That's where you will find my writing. #

I watched the movie Seven last night, and I can't stop thinking about it. It got a shitty review in the NYT, which usually means I won't bother with something, but this time I decided to give it a try. The reviewer, Janet Maislin, didn't like the acting of Brad Pitt. I thought Pitt was an unlikeable jerk, but I also thought that was the role, but maybe I was wrong. I didn't care. I also couldn't figure out what city it was. It wasn't NY, but Maislin says it was. Usually in a movie set in NY, I recognize many of the locations. There are only a few places movies are shot in the city. But again, I didn't care. What keeps me thinking about it is the story. I'm not going to spoil it. Don't read any reviews before watching it, they pretty much all get in the way of the storytelling. #

How to be part of the rebooted blogosphere. #

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08 Sep 2025 at 05:00
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Steve Troughton-Smith on Mastodon:

I know Apple has got used to making its share of Microsoft-scale screwups lately, but taking the two best UI frameworks ever made, UIKit and AppKit, and throwing them under the bus for something designed to build watch apps really does take the cake.

These frameworks were so good. Still are! I’ll never fully understand why there couldn’t have been a universal layer for iOS and macOS plus some existing AppKit and UIKit pieces for platform-specific features. Oh well, that ship sailed years ago now.

Manton Reece

08 Sep 2025 at 03:26
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