Just three days in to my new meditation routine I'm already finding it easier than I have in the past.

A lot of the problem with meditation is that you are often not really told how to do it, just given sweeping statements that you are instantly expected to grasp.

Oak is the first app I've personally used which actually tells you how to focus on your breath. It's guided meditation is simple which helps you settle quickly but, rather than just saying "focus on your breath" you are told to identify where you most feel it and that becomes your focal point.

For me, it's the feel of the air in my nostrils during inhale then switches to the relaxation of my chest during exhale. Identify and focus.

It may seem a simple, perhaps insignificant, distinction to make but, in doing so, it illustrates that your practice is unique to you and, because of this, there is no right or wrong way to do it.

Too often we get hung up on doing things in exactly a certain way (often as dictated by someone else) but there is no single right way for everyone.

  1. coolcut says: #
    I also started using Oak for some days now and really like it so far. Headspace strangely never stuck for me - maybe now is just the right time for Oak. ¯(ツ)
  2. jack says: #
    I'm really enjoying Oak. Hoping to meditate at least 20 minutes a day, but historically have never gotten past the urge for each session to be over.
  3. jack says: #
    I'm still at 10/day. Going with that for a couple weeks before bumping it up. Very tempted to try one of those 10-day retreats but afraid I'd lose my mind. :)
  4. Colin Walker says: #
    I’d have been fine in my younger days. When I lived on my own and was a bit of a loner I could days without talking to anyone. Not so sure now though.
  5. schuth says: #
    I’ve given Oak a try after you mentioned it over the weekend. I also downloaded buddhify & Insight Timer to give them a whirl. I like buddhify‘s wheel approach; Insight Timer’s insistence on signing up for an account was a turn-off.
  6. Colin Walker says: #
    Exactly the reason I’ve not dived into Insight Timer myself. What potentially interests me in Buddhify is the tailored meditations but I’ll see how I go for a while.
  7. tonybloggs says: #
    I'd suggest avoiding retreats if you haven't done much meditating - they are hard work and you need to be comfortable meditating for good chunks of time first. I've been sitting off and on for 10 years for up to 1.5hrs/day and still haven't braved more than 3 days of retreat
  8. jack says: #
    that sounds like good advice. Maybe I’ll be able to work up to it eventually.
  9. schuth says: #
    I did see that, and I’ll probably attempt it at some point. It’s a bit too unstructured for where I’m at in right now, which is fine. I’m hoping I’ll be comfortable with some unstructured meditation by summer.
  10. jw says: #
    otoh, going to a meditation retreat can be really good immersion training. Note: my background is Soto Zen, and that’s mostly “just sitting.” Note also, tho, that I did my first three days of retreat with untreated ADHD and it was incredible.
  11. tonybloggs says: #
    Same background :) ...I did do some retreats in my early days but they were HARD. But yep there is value in immersion too, I'm just suggesting that being able to sit for 25+mins a couple of times a day on your own first will help a lot.
  12. jw says: #
    word. I'm not sure I've ever sat more than 15 min at a time outside of a retreat, but that's ok! Everyone has a different method. 🧘

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